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Dear Spamagic Readers : Rekindle The Fire In Your Relationship
I came across this write up and thought to share it ,its a little lenghty but trust me ,its so worth it. Read and enjoy !
My
name is John. I’m a typical Nigerian guy and I cherish my Fridays a
lot; I get to hang out with the sickest guys every Friday night and
secondly, It’s another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get
confused sometimes on whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it
twisted; I love her pieces. It just gets complicated; like I wish we
never got married…marriage has turned her into something that doesn’t
amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited
lady I dated for five years.
A lot of people say its unethical
for married guys to be found in a club, but I wish everyone won’t be too
quick to judge and understand that people look for fun to run away from
their problems; they just want to breathe, like me.
I forgot
to say that I work in Guarantee Trust Bank along Aba Road Port Harcourt,
I love my job and my job loves me, maybe its because I’m the senior
banking officer. Lol. This particular morning, a lady breezed into my
office. My heart raced faster because I had not sighted anything this
beautiful in a long while. She wasn’t the typical slender Barbie, in
fact, she was a bit chubby but her smile, cuteness and…I was tripped.
“Hi Good morning! Your ATM has swallowed my card!” She laughed, unlike a typical customer that would ram you.
I just tried to form Boss laughter…
“Good morning, You know what? I’d personally make sure they get it out
for you, but not today. Can you wait till Monday?” I smiled
“GTB shaaa! OK, can I just drop my number so you could call me up or
just text when its ready so I don’t come twice? Please? My name is
Nancy” She blinked her eyes in a funny way.
“Sure” I smiled
We exchanged numbers. What a lucky Friday!
So it was 10:00pm and I headed to the club…as usual my friends were
chilling for me. My wife had called a couple of times, I just ignored
it. She knows I’m never home Friday nights.
“Look at you!” I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the ATM lady-Nancy.
“Wow, look at you too!” I was surprised to see her but I was happy I didn’t have to wait till Monday to see her again.
“Happy Friday!” She screamed because of the noise, “Wanna dance?”
I didn’t even have the chance to answer, she already pulled me to dance
floor. I really suck at dancing but she helped me; she was a great
dancer! I had fun! At some point we decided to go to a private area and
we talked, ranging from work, business to personal life. I tried to hide
my ring as much as possible, I certainly didn’t want this to end now.
“You are a really wonderful lady. You are so interesting…any guy would want to be with you all day” I said.
“I wasn’t always like this but I have learned the hard way that life is just too short to be sad” she sang
Then her phone rang…
“Hey baby! Yeah I’m at the private lounge, I’d like you to meet someone…alright boo” she talked excitedly as usual.
I was in shock until this tall handsome man walks up to her and kisses her.
“You were late. Meet John; I met him this morning, he’s helping with
your ATM I told you got swallowed and John this is my B to the O-O,” she
laughed “Meet my husband Kolade, we only come here to dance every
fortnight Friday; away from work, stress and kids.”
“Wow, a pleasure” I managed to shake him
Then she stood now excitedly holding her husband’s arms.
“Why don’t we invite John for Mimi’s 16th birthday tomorrow?” Her husband said
They have kids too? How long have they been married and they look like a couple just dating!
“Silly me, please come for my second daughter’s 16th tomorrow. It would be an honor” She brought out an I.V from her purse.
I began to feel so ashamed of myself…this was another guy like me, getting it right with one woman.
I collected the I.V and promised to be there.
“See you tomorrow! Have you had something to eat Kolade?” she talked and dragged her husband along.
They left and I kept staring at the thin air like I had seen a ghost.
They come just to dance together every fortnight Fridays? Why didn’t I
think of that! Temi loves to dance…she also likes long walks, she loves
to talk…she loves jazz music, there’s this vivid picture I have of me
putting her hand on my chest when we danced at a jazz club on our first
year anniversary…I found myself typing all the things I knew Temi loved
to do on my Ipad and I realized I had denied her of all…I had made her
the old woman she acts.
What the hell was I doing here! I
didn’t even tell my friends goodbye, I walked out of the club into my
Jaguar. Temi’s call came through and I picked at first ring.
“Temi?” My heart raced
“I know you are not coming home…”
“I am, stay up so we can gist. Been a while” I decided to do everything
on that list and to even add many more for the rest of my lifetime with
her.
“Are you alright?” She was shocked I suppose
“And I’d like us to go for a birthday party tomorrow. I want you to meet this amazing
couple”
“You sound different John”
“Maybe I’m different”
“Don’t say it! don’t say it! when you come we will gist very well” she laughed
She laughed!!! In just that laughter that I hadn’t heard in a while, she sounded like the lady I married six years ago…
Dear reader,
This is to remind us that creating memorable
moments with our partner matters. Do you know that little things are the
sweetest things? Just creating time to gist and laugh with your
partner, having a day in the week that’s exclusively for you both-No
friends or kids allowed.
Ladies, when last did you tell your
partner just how lovable he is? Guy! When last did you tell your lady she is
the sweetest thing in your life? When last did you whisper ‘Thank you’? How quick are you to say ‘I’m sorry’?
Do you even have a clue as to what your partner loves to do?
When you ignore little things, they are the little pieces of rocks that
build up to become a mountain that can’t easily be break down.
Its very true. What this guy is saying is wht most men re doing to their wives. They forget wht d bible said dat ur wife is ur body n dat no one hurt his body but nurishes it. But re most men like dat? They don't seen to appreciate n love d wonderful woman dat God give to them after marriage, rather they abondon her for other ladies dat re not upto their wives in any stand. May God help n c us through.
Na wa o, men can be funny sha. Why not make ur wife be the perfect woman u truely desire. Instead of looking out. Anyway am glad he had a second thought.
Hmmmm what a charming story,communication is very important in marriage. Men should learn to communicate wif their wives,and tell dem what they want. Rada dan kip late nites wif oda women
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ReplyDeleteIts very true. What this guy is saying is wht most men re doing to their wives. They forget wht d bible said dat ur wife is ur body n dat no one hurt his body but nurishes it. But re most men like dat? They don't seen to appreciate n love d wonderful woman dat God give to them after marriage, rather they abondon her for other ladies dat re not upto their wives in any stand. May God help n c us through.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o, men can be funny sha. Why not make ur wife be the perfect woman u truely desire. Instead of looking out. Anyway am glad he had a second thought.
ReplyDeleteI love dis story,atleast men would know our worth.they dnt hv 2look far,dey can make us be like dat perfect woman dey want n nt look else where.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm what a charming story,communication is very important in marriage. Men should learn to communicate wif their wives,and tell dem what they want. Rada dan kip late nites wif oda women
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