WHERE ARE YOU?

11:15 pm.

My alarm goes off. I am awake making several attempts to reach for my blackberry phone and scroll the track pad all the way to the snooze icon. Giving up the struggle because I can barely see where my hand is going. Its not like I have forgotten that there is some one next to me, but the realisation hits me as soon as our hands touch.

“Who the hell is calling you at this time of the night, trying to disturb my peace.”

No, I am not married, I am not even engaged. our parents are not even aware that such a relationship exists, well my girl friends are aware, they have all the free food and drinks to show for it, i am not even twenty yet. I am seventeen.

That’s my boyfriend.

CHIKA IKE : I LEFT MY MARRIAGE BEACUSE I WAS A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Pretty nollywood actress Chike Ike has lent her voice to the campaign against domestic violence by writing an open letter to her fans, revealing the physical abuse she suffered in the hands of the man she called her husband for five years. Read her story after the cut

24 WARNING SIGNS THAT YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

Recently the Big Brother Africa housemates have had cause to examine abusive relationships, leading to alarming revelations from housemates Cleo and Beverly, declaring that they have at some point in their past been in abusive relationships. (This article is not a 'lets hate on beverly festival, so if that's what you're looking for ite really time to stop reading). The housemates discussions come at a time when abusive relationships are almost common place in the news, and even more so because the the females often choose to stand by their abusive men. How do women (men sef) get into such  relationships? How do men turn around and abuse this women they had presumably professed love to at some point? Why do this women put up with it? Why do they go back to these men? Today we discuss 24 signs that you may be in an abusive relationship.

MUST READ: 8 SIGNS YOU'RE DATING AN ABUSIVE MAN

Project Alert on Violence Against Women is an organization that promotes and protects the rights of women and young girls and renders practical support to female victims of violence. The Programme Assistant on Social Media Advocacy with Project alert sent these tips to Stella Dimorkorkus on how to know when you're with an abusive partner. It may be directed to women, but I think men can learn from it too.


Stella's blog has been publishing accounts of women who have experienced any form of domestic violence, which is quite commendable. One of the goals of Project Alert is to educate as many women as possible about all forms of domestic violence especially young women that are yet to get married so that they can make better choices. According to them, prevention is always the best approach. Below is an article to guide young ladies on abusive relationships.