READERs Mail: FRANKLY SPEAKING (finding Mrs. Right)

Every human has problems. Problems such as knowing the right woman to marry & strategies for wooing Ms Right to become Mrs Who.

Getting a life-partner in a sea of many women is like navigating through cars, vehicles, trucks, etc in a chaotic traffic.

One sure way of making this decision of a life time is to seek for heavenly guidance. But having sought counsel, we humans still exhibit the tendency to be biased despite the clear handwriting on the wall. Picking Mrs Who, may now be in the end a statistical exercise.

Most often than not, when we talk of men, in literary terms, we make reference also to the feminine gender.

As the word hits a population of over
7 billion people, also the sample size of marriage-able people have increased.

Almost every woman in this bracket sees it as an unwritten rule to increase the number of eligible suitors (sample size) maybe due to increase in world population.

Some time ago, I asked a lady, her response was frank. I will have six fiances, out of which one will be my husband.

Of course her response sounds weird & un-African; but her estimation derives from the statistical inference; the larger the population, the larger the sample.

This lays support to my conclusion in a previous piece that women are better economist in terms of marriage-able relationships.

They tend to roll men like a 6-faced dice & they adopt the theory of probability to choose who becomes the man of the house. Its not by mere intuition alone; there are several methods that I'm not privy to publish here.

Can I hear someone say it wasn't so in my time. Yes! In your time, the head & the tail of a coin may have been adopted as the statistical tool. This makes the experiment simpler; the head becomes the husband, while the tail goes home empty-handed & heart-broken.

Who says I'm not married; yet I've just one fiance?. I beg to disagree; even if its for real, the probability of one girl having one fiance is like 1 in 100,000.

Every girl sees herself as very fine these days. Why not? With her 24 inch Peruvian or Brazilian hair; Victoria Secrets undies, Gucci Bag, Ferragammo shoes & other designer's clothes to match. And of course, Mary K make-up to the rescue. She sure will look like an Hollywood celebrity on a red carpet.

This our girls sef! Naija no be Hollywood, even though una fine, make una dey copy small-small.

When they see themselves as a 'Kardashian', they think they've obtained the right to bring men into their houses & no one has the moral right to frown at this act. After all, have you paid her bride price?

I wonder what our girls are turning into. You bring a man into your bed in the full glare of the other man who wants to marry you. And you still want him to pay the bride price? Or is it the bed price?

If copy-copy too much; to paste am dey hard o. One day make una no
go think say its fashionable also to 'sleep with animals' as it is common in some other countries. Una don too copy. I know say e no concern me o, but make I talk my own sha.

Haba! Girls! We are Africans! Our culture abhors this. Even when we are not in African soil; do we deny our origin & hold on to another man's way of life? Because we are in another man's land? What values did our mother's teach us?

Most recently, I mean less than 3 months ago, I was told the story of a young man who abandoned his city & ran for the cover of another city just a night before his wedding. Can you imagine it?

And I've asked severally, what did this guy see, hear or know that will make him run for cover?

It must be more than 'heart missiles'. Even though he is heartbroken; I'm sure he'll be singing Wande Coal's Sope tie cos the 'welding' never held before he found out.

I speak for myself & for most African men not with pride; but with utmost sincerity that an African man could forgive anything, but not an unfaithful spouse or wife.

The only ground I can divorce a woman is on infidelity. I hate to say this in this here; but nothing on this earth will make me accept an 'unfaithful wife'...NOTHING!

I will DIVORCE you that sleeps with another man; If I catch you.
I will!

I'm not an advocate of 'non-tested'. So, cut the crap about. Oh! Because I didn't test, I didn't know the thing won't work to my satisfaction.
Oh! Because I need the 'something' at all times that's why I did it. Forgive me, its the devil.

You better marry that guy who will give you the 'something' maybe 3 times daily & 7 days weekly. Or en-treat the powers that could pursue the 'devil' from working in your 'tomato' field.

When we start doing things that will surely make us lose what we've built over the years; we better think twice.

If you have 6 fiances today, & you eventually marry one tomorrow.
You still have a big tendency of remaining unfaithful to your marriage.

Men never go away from the 'tomato' field they have dug before. Even when the 'tomato field' has been sold to another man, and it is written NO TRESPASS! Whether the original owner has harvested from it or not.
We have a tendency to share 'fruits' that have been sold out.

...Because old habits die hard...


PS~ Pardon my vulgarity

i just had to post this one, not cause i agree with the writer but because it got me thinking....what do you think about it?