THE MARRIED WOMAN'S GUIDE TO KEEPING HER MAN BY STELLA DAMASUS

I initially didn't want to share this but after sharing Ali Baba's guide and noting how much he referred to hers i have decided to also share it..so yes i know its stale, but i'm posting it for anyone who missed it initially..enjoy and make sure you tell me what you think.. her opinion after the cut..

COMEDIAN ALI BABA'S 'HOW TO KEEP YOUR MAN'

 

 A number of days ago i read a write-up by Stella Damasus on 'how to keep your man' and quite honestly i didn't think much of it. I was going to post it but then i forgot and even when i remebered i decided against it because quite frankly i just didn't think it made a lot of sense (my humble, very humble opinion). Today i stumbled on this one which the comedian posted on his facebook page and thought i might as well share. He referred to Stella's write-up a number of times. i'm going to look for hers and post it too.. but enjoy his own after the cut and tell me what you think

WHERE ARE YOU?

11:15 pm.

My alarm goes off. I am awake making several attempts to reach for my blackberry phone and scroll the track pad all the way to the snooze icon. Giving up the struggle because I can barely see where my hand is going. Its not like I have forgotten that there is some one next to me, but the realisation hits me as soon as our hands touch.

“Who the hell is calling you at this time of the night, trying to disturb my peace.”

No, I am not married, I am not even engaged. our parents are not even aware that such a relationship exists, well my girl friends are aware, they have all the free food and drinks to show for it, i am not even twenty yet. I am seventeen.

That’s my boyfriend.

RELATIONSHIPS: 9 SIGNS THAT YOUR MARRIAGE MAY BE IN TROUBLE

Although we all love to be happily married, couples often find themselves caught off guard when a marriage breaks. The reasons may range from silly to serious. It happens in the most unexpected way. Only when you face the situation do you actually begin to think back and realise if you missed the warning signs. Today we share 9 signs that your marriage may be in trouble, after the cut..

MUST READ: 8 SIGNS YOU'RE DATING AN ABUSIVE MAN

Project Alert on Violence Against Women is an organization that promotes and protects the rights of women and young girls and renders practical support to female victims of violence. The Programme Assistant on Social Media Advocacy with Project alert sent these tips to Stella Dimorkorkus on how to know when you're with an abusive partner. It may be directed to women, but I think men can learn from it too.


Stella's blog has been publishing accounts of women who have experienced any form of domestic violence, which is quite commendable. One of the goals of Project Alert is to educate as many women as possible about all forms of domestic violence especially young women that are yet to get married so that they can make better choices. According to them, prevention is always the best approach. Below is an article to guide young ladies on abusive relationships.

TOP 12 REASONS WHY COUPLES BREAK UP!

You may be married or you may be dating, but the restless confusion feels just the same when you’re drifting apart from each other. You may not know the reasons or even when the drift started, but you can sense it from the unhappiness you feel in love.

Today we share 12 reasons why couples drift apart over time, take note and try to make a difference wherever you're falling short.

21 CRAZY THINGS NIGERIAN WOMEN WOULD DO JUST TO GET MARRIED

Tired of waiting for your dream man? Tired of changing boyfriends like underwear? Tired of begging God to upgrade you? Tired of waiting for your boyfriend to propose? Tired of all the heartbreaks and betrayal? Tired of men chopping you for free? Tire no more… Statistics show that only 3% of single women of marriageable age in Nigeria are undisturbed by their lack of a spouse! The other 97% would do just about anything to become Mrs somebody.

And when I say anything, I mean it… Here are 21 unorthodox things ‘classy’ Nigerian women have done in their quest to bag a husband! Some are bizzare, some are skanky and some are downright sad…but if you’re willing to try anything and getting a husband is the only activity left on your bucket list, you might wanna try a few! (Men beware) #Not for the fainthearted…lol

Tiwa Savage Speaks On her relationship and new album

And no album yet?
No album till now.

That’s shocking because you have made a sizable amount of money. Haven’t you ?
We thank God we are making a little to get us by. Finally the album is here and I’m very proud of it. It exceeded my expectations and I’m glad we waited because my mum always said ‘God’s time is the best’. Everybody wondered when the album was coming out, but there are some things you can’t rush. Besides, we don’t live in a society where it’s an album market. The singles sell more but your album has to speak of you as a person and that’s why I took my time in producing the album. I wanted to show my different sides musically. I wanted people generally to be able to accept my music and still be very musical in what I did.
more when you continue
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HE TWEETS, SHE TWEETS: PICTURE, TWEETS AND DETAILS ON TONTO'S HEARTBREAK DRAMA

A few days ago Controversial Actress/ attempted musician Tonto Dike poured her heart out on Twitter (her tweets are pictured above), sharing about a recent heartbreak she suffered.( the way she types though..yuck!). The Latest gist on this is that the details of the guy are now out. He is Caporahvenwah Okolie, popularly known as Chief Capo (pictured below with Tonto). The picture and more tweets when you continue..

CELEB COUPLES AT THE AMVCA's

JAY-JAY AND NKECHI OKOCHA

By now you've seen what everyone wore to the AMVCA's..today we show you what celebrity couples attended with their spouses..when you continue

JUST MARRIED: THE AMAZING LOVE STORY OF JIMMY AND KEMI ODUKOYA

Pastor Jimmy Odukoya, son of the late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya and Pastor Taiwo Odukoya of Fountain of Life Church got married to his heartthrob, Oluwakemi Sade Banjoko yesterday in London and it was a lovely affair.

In an interview with ThisDay Newspaper given prior to the wedding day, the couple speak about their love, romance and family.

continue to read their story :

MERCY JOHNSON'S ADVICE TO LADIES : 'USE YOUR BRAIN..ITS FOR THINKING'

I've never been a Mercy Johnson fan, but i read it and i loved her ,liked her  thought it was pretty decent of her to say..what do you think about it?

Some ladies have lost their thinking caps. Some found it but unable to use it. Must you clock 35 before you stop partying here & there? You already know all Eateries/ Hotels in town! You even know the tastes of their various ice-creams, pepper-soups, shawamas, etc. 
And you can tell the prices of their beers and wines offhand.

Funny, you're singing “No man is responsible.” 
*Which responsible man drinks to stupour and clubs every weekend? *Which responsible man samples you and your slutty friends randomly? 
more when you continue

MUST READ: LIES,RELIGION, ABUSE IN MARRIAGE; AMAKA MUNONYE'S SHOCKING STORY

The story you're about to read is an incredibly sad but true story. It is also a very long story that requires patience to really understand the pain described by the writer. It is her version of events and i cannot help but spread this story in the hope that someone somewhere would be willing and able to help her. 

On the 1st of March 2013, a Nigerian woman based in Canada named Amaka Munonye published a blogpost detailing her 15 year journey of abuse with her soon-to-be ex-husband. Amaka is sharing her story to garner support as she has lost custody of her 2 children and her fear is that her predicament will be permanent if she does not speak out.

Here is the link to Amaka’s blog – http://comehometomum.blogspot.ca/ |

In addition, she has launched a Facebook Page to rally up support - http://www.facebook.com/pages/Please-Help-Amaka-Munonye-Get-Her-Children-Back/433600363388337

Amaka’s story was also republished on popular relationship blog - Myne Whitman Writes

The following summary was published by Bella naija..(however i would prefer that you continue to read the story as written by Amaka after this summary.it is a very long write-up)

SUMMARY

Amaka was a bright young medical student  at the University of Nigeria Nsukka when she had to leave her university because she was being harassed by a cult member who wanted “to marry her”. The cultists were arrested and she was advised not to attend any other university in Nigeria due to the fear of retaliatory attacks by fellow cultists.

She moved back to Lagos where her loving family began making arrangements for her to relocate to Canada. During this time, she had a job at a hospital.
She met a Ghanaian “pastor” who claimed he had visited her house to visit her brother. They became friends and one day after night vigil, she ended up at his house because her estate gate was locked. He raped her that morning.

After that, she was traumatized and stopped talking to him.
He kept stalking her to “forgive” him and convinced her that if she did not, she would be cursed. After years of waiting, her Canadian Immigration Application moved to the next stage when she forgave him. This convinced her that he was a powerful man of God and had some sort of supernatural influence over her.

Before she left for Canada, he assaulted her again – he then cut her and himself. At that time, he joined their open wounds and claimed they had a blood oath. He scared her by telling her that she or anyone she slept with would die.

When Amaka got to Canada, Chris continued to stalk her with incessant phone calls. At a point, she met up with an old crush, they made out (kissed) and kept in touch via the phone when he got back to Nigeria. She didn’t hear from him for a few weeks and then found out that he died. This traumatized her further and gave credibility to Chris’ claims about their blood oath.

For a reason she cannot explain, Amaka went to Ghana to marry Chris, she filed for Canadian Residency for him and also dropped out of school in Canada to move to Ghana to stay with him. Her parents did not know about her marriage or her move to Ghana. Chris used and abused her in Ghana including stripping her in public, beating her and more but still she stayed. She tried to leave a few times but always went back. 

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READ OPEN LETTER BY LAMAR ODOM'S EX ON LOSING HIM TO KHLOE KARDASHIAN

Ever wondered what happens to men who seem to date one woman forever without commitment only to suddenly leave her and get married to another abruptly? this story is not likely to answer that question..its the painful story of a woman who suffered the same fate.

Liza Morales (pictured right) was with NBA player Lamar Odom for 10 years. They had three kids together, Destiny, 14, Lamar Odom Jr, 11 and a third child, Jayden, who died at six months old of SIDS in 2006. Liza recently published an open letter in The Daily Beast speaking of her devastation at Lamar's whirlwind romance and wedding to Khloe Kardashian. The letter is as follows..

‘I don’t think I’ll forget the tight knot I felt in the pit of my stomach the morning I received the text message with three simple words on the screen. It read 'I’m getting married’ and it was from the man I’d spent more than 10 years of my life with.

‘Years that included us getting engaged in 2000 and becoming parents to one daughter and two sons. Yet not long after our separation Lamar Odom was getting married to Khloe Kardashian, a woman he’d met four weeks before.’

‘How could the man who’d constantly given me reason after reason for why we couldn’t get married just yet now be ready to tie the knot so quickly? There aren’t words to explain how I felt that day.’

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WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX WHEN YOU'VE MADE LOVE?- SISTER DEFENDS NSE ETIM

Who wants to have sex when they’ve made love? I don’t. My sister who got married on Thursday, the 14th didn’t want to either…hmmm i wonder what you think you're about to read..hehe, you're in for a surprise... oya clean your mind now! then continue...

TWEETS: DID ICEPRINCE DENY DATING YVONNE NELSON

Is Iceprince denying that a love relationship exists between them? tweets when you continue...

So Lola Alao really thinks women should go for married men if they make them happy?

The Nollywood actress said this in a recent interview.

"Let me explain something to you; where are the single guys? They are there and not ready to marry. If the single guys are not ready then the next available option should be taken. I believe one should go for whatever makes one happy. If a married man is the one that will make you happy, please go for it. I know married women would be angry with me but it is the truth of the matter".

REALLY? PEOPLE STILL THINK THIS WAY IN 2013?...

Rapper Ice-prince Dumps Girlfriend for Sizzling Romance with Actress Yvonne Nelson

Iceprince who has been dating designer Yvonne Nwosu for some time has now dumped her to  rekindle his relationship with ex-girlfriend actress Yvonne Nelson. Yes, ex-girlfriend ,what we didnt know up until recently is that even before Iyanya came into the picture, Yvonne Nelson had dated Iceprince. The Ghanaian actress Yvonne Nelson dated Iceprince sometime last year before ending things with him to date Iyanya.

Actress Nse Ikpe Etim's amazing true love story

 

You all know the lovely nollywood actress Nse got engaged a little while back right? well she  tells us her amazing journey to finally meeting 'The one'. It's a little lengthy but i assure you it is worth it....enjoy!

Becoming Her
I had been immunized against the bug and this is received through all the amazing lessons life hands you on a platter. I had a boyfriend when it was a taboo to have one. I was 17. Our first meeting was as ordinary as it gets. I went on a stroll which was not uncommon those days on our estate, and there came this young man driving his father’s car. He stopped, chatted with me for a while and I wonder what he said that made me get into his car and have him drop me off......

Saying Till Death - Episode 4

Susan cried for at least 30 minutes (i'm not exaggerating oh) not silent tears, she was crying those kind of tears that involve a lot of heaving, and blowing the nose and generally not looking pretty. I just kept saying "calm down Susan, calm down". Finally she calmed down, she became very quiet. I put a call through to the make-up artiste to get her to come and re-do the bride's make-up. After my call Susan broke her silence, "You can tell her not to worry about the make-up, i'm going home".